There is nothing more devastatingly painful than having to bury your own child. During these times words can be difficult to find that will help grieving mothers. In reality, the grief they are facing cannot be soothed with some words. The grief of this magnitude needs to be processed to go forth the healing process. While words cannot do much in this situation, knowing that there are people around who are willing to comfort them can be an invaluable part of the healing process.
Did you know that until recently there wasn’t a word to describe parents who have lost their child. Now the tern “Vilomah” has been assigned to those who endure this loss.
- “They say time heals all wounds, but that presumes the source of the grief is finite.” — Cassandra Clare
- “Over time I have realized that in order to move forward, knowing that I must bring this wall with me, that the best way to do so is to metaphorically flood the soil near the wall with water, and have the wall float with me, instead of me having to carry it. Every act of love and kindness turns to water. Water and love can penetrate and move anything. It just takes time. I need to turn my wall into a raft.” – John A. Passaro
- “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”― Jamie Anderson
- “Those we love and lose are always connected by heartstrings into infinity.” — Terri Guillemets
- “Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Sometimes you’ll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you’ll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”- Cheryl Strayed
- “The weird, weird thing about devastating loss is that life actually goes on. When you’re faced with a tragedy, a loss so huge that you have no idea how you can live through it, somehow, the world keeps turning, the seconds keep ticking.” — James Patterson
- “I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are evil.” – J.R.R. Tolkien
- “We all want to do something to mitigate the pain of loss or to turn grief into something positive, to find a silver lining in the clouds. But I believe there is real value in just standing there, being still, being sad.” — John Green
- “It is the capacity to feel consuming grief and pain and despair that also allows me to embrace love and joy and beauty with my whole heart. I must let it all in.” — Anna White
- “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it breaks.” – William Shakespeare
- “Life is full of grief, to exactly the degree we allow ourselves to love other people.” — Orson Scott Card
- “Your memory feels like home to me. So whenever my mind wanders, it always finds its way back to you.” — Ranata Suzuki
- “A mother’s grief is as timeless as her love.” – Joanne Cacciatore
- “Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality.” — Emily Dickinson
- “There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” – Washington Irving
- “The wound is the place where light enters you.” – Rumi
- “It’s possible to go on, no matter how impossible it seems, and that in time, the grief… lessens. It may not go away completely, but after a while, it’s not so overwhelming.” — Nicholas Sparks
- “I did not take you with me/ but you were never left behind.” – Lang Leav
- “Grief is the price we pay for love.” — Queen Elizabeth II
- “While grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates. You must wait till it is digested, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it.” ― Samuel Johnson
- “If you suppress grief too much, it can well redouble.” — Moliere
- “What is lovely never dies/ But passes into another loveliness/ Star-dust or sea-foam/ Flower or winged air.” – Thomas Bailey Aldrich
- “Grief is like the ocean; it comes in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” — Vicki Harrison
- “And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” – Haruki Murakami
- “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” — Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
- “When a parent dies, they are buried in the ground. When a child dies, they are buried in the parent’s heart.” – Proverb
- “Tears are the silent language of grief.” — Voltaire
- “Grief, a type of sadness that most often occurs when you have lost someone you love, is a sneaky thing because it can disappear for a long time, and then pop back up when you least expect it.” — Lemony Snicket
- “Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.” — Anne Roiphe
- “She was no longer wrestling with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharer in her thoughts.” – George Eliot
Words can be a great companion when it comes to consoling someone who is facing the pain of losing some. With more than 30 Condolence Messages For Loss And Grief, learn what to say during these difficult times.
